People always talk about women’s “innate” ability to detect when a man is interested in them. There are a series of gestures, signals, and signs that men can’t help but make when they’re around a girl who drives them crazy .
But even though some signs are quite obvious, many women struggle to tell whether a guy is interested in them or not. The information can sometimes be ambiguous, to the point where many women aren’t sure if there’s physical attraction or just a simple friendship.
Does that guy like you? Signs that can help you know
To clarify these aspects, which are unequivocal signs of attraction, we’ve prepared this short guide so you can know when a man really likes you, with a high degree of reliability.
1. Permanent smile
A classic. If the man in front of you can’t stop smiling when you’re around, for no apparent reason, he might really like you. Smiling is one of the essential ways to express that another person makes us feel good .
If he likes talking to you, tends to come up to you to ask you questions, and is in a good mood when he’s around you… it’s very likely that he has special feelings for you.
2. He looks at your mouth
A more subtle sign, but also a good indicator that he likes you. If he pays close attention to your lips and mouth when you’re talking, it could be a sign that he likes you .
If he looks at your mouth, chances are he wants to kiss you. Obviously, this doesn’t mean anyone looking at your lips is desperately wanting to kiss you , but it can be a sign that, combined with others, can be enough to make you start thinking there’s attraction in the air. Looking at your lips is an unconscious gesture, but it says a lot about the intentions of the guy you’re chatting with.
3. He pays attention to you
This is a more obvious sign, although many women don’t appreciate it . If he shows you attention, care, and pampering, it’s very likely he’s interested in you. If he also displays gestures and is gentle… the issue is even clearer.
If you notice that whenever you say something, he seems interested, if he tries to catch up on the topics you usually talk about… you should start thinking that this guy is attracted to you.
4. He is kind to you
Another classic, and one of the most obvious signs: if that man is kind to you, if he tries to make things easier for you and subtly praises you, he is interested in you .
But be careful, we’ll have to see if he has a special way of dealing with you or if he’s equally gentlemanly with everyone… it’s up to you to gauge this.
5. Look for common ground
One of the most obvious signs to know if a man likes you is his willingness to find hobbies and things you have in common , for example when you chat or when you tell him that you particularly like something.
If you tell someone you love surfing and they automatically say they’d love to learn how to surf, that’s a clear sign of attraction. If you love dance music and they tell you they love it too and invite you to a concert, that’s also a sign of something special. Why does this happen? When we like someone, we try to present a soulmate image , to convey that we’re a potential partner. Sharing hobbies is one of the ways to connect on a romantic and emotional level.
6. You can’t help but get nervous
Even the most confident men show signs of feeling somewhat insecure when they’re around the girl they’ve been dreaming about. Stiffness, hesitant attitude, overthinking what they say or do, unnatural movements … these are signs of this nervousness.
7. Body posture
In another article, we talked about nonverbal language. This can be another way to look for certain signs of attraction toward you. For example, if they mimic your posture, if they point their body directly toward you, if they puff out their chest… all of these body language can indicate attraction.
8. He wants to spend time with you
One of the most obvious signs that a man is irrepressibly attracted to you is this: if he tries to arrange to meet you outside of the usual context, invites you out for a drink, or “casually” shows up at your workplace, it means he wants to be close to you.
Any excuse a man uses to see you can be interpreted as a sign of physical and/or romantic attraction . Ultimately, he’s deciding to prioritize you over other people or hobbies. If that’s not a sign of attraction, then God help you.
9. He leans towards you when you talk
Body language is a great indicator of a man’s interest. If he leans slightly toward you during a conversation, even when he doesn’t need to, to hear you better, it’s a clear sign he’s attracted to you. This gesture indicates he wants to close the distance between you and is interested in what you’re saying .
If you also notice that he maintains eye contact while talking to you and doesn’t constantly look away, his interest is even more evident.
10. He is protective of you
When a man feels a special attraction to someone, he instinctively feels the need to protect and care for that person . If you notice that he worries about your well-being, offers to help you in everyday situations, or even adopts a more serious tone if someone makes you uncomfortable, it’s a sign that he cares about you and feels more than just friendship.
Pay attention to small details: Does he lend you his jacket if it’s cold? Does he walk you home to make sure you’re safe? These actions are key clues to his feelings.
11. He gets ready when he sees you
Another gesture he can’t help but show off is subtly grooming himself when you’re around . It can be something as simple as straightening his shirt, adjusting his hair, or adjusting his posture. These unconscious signals reveal that he wants to be his best self when he’s with you.
If you also notice that he has started dressing better or putting on perfume when he knows he is going to see you, it is a clear indication that he wants to impress you and get your attention.
Observations, nuances and extra tips
First of all, a small nuance: human beings are very complex. It’s possible that someone is giving you signals that you’re misinterpreting. For example, a guy may be trying to spend a lot of time with you for a reason other than physical attraction. You should value this and take it into account.
In any case, while humans are capable of lying through words, gestures and nonverbal communication are much harder to disguise . That’s why gestures, subtle as they may be, offer us a practical way to know what that guy is thinking about you.