Have you ever wondered how to tell if someone likes you? Learn how to spot signs of attraction, whether they’re romantic or just friendly.
Attraction can make anyone feel emotional. But is it possible to figure out if someone likes you?
Yes, it is possible. It’s not as simple as the old ‘he loves me, he loves me not’ game with flower petals, but you can learn the basics of knowing if someone is interested in you.
Body language expert Linda Clemons can help with this. With her advice and the Mindvalley Dating and Attraction Body Language Quiz, you can learn how to tell if someone likes you.
Understanding these social cues can help in all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. You’ll also get better at reading group dynamics and understanding people’s behavior.
What are the obvious signs that you like someone?
If you’re observant enough, you’ll find many signs of attraction in a person who’s interested in you. Can you sense when someone likes you? You’ll know instantly if you pay attention to certain signs.
Especially when it comes to body language, which often betrays even the things you’re trying to hide, like having a crush on someone. And according to Linda:
Your words are a small part; it doesn’t matter what you say. Your nonverbal language will dominate.Linda Clemons, Mindvalley trainer and nonverbal communication expert
Here are twenty of the most common signs that someone likes you.
1. They are happy or excited around you
This is one of the clearest ways to tell if someone likes you. If they do, they’ll enjoy your company, smile often, and join in conversations with enthusiasm.
2. They want to spend time with you
People who like you usually won’t miss a chance to spend time together. They might even look for ways to see you more often.
3. They will bow down to you
When talking, they’ll move closer and tilt their head toward you.
You may also notice open body language and lively gestures when they talk to you.
“When you are talking with your hands and arms open, you are inviting the person you like.”Linda Clemons, Mindvalley trainer and nonverbal communication expert
4. They will imitate you
Another interesting sign is when someone copies your actions.
If someone likes you, they might copy your posture, how you sit or stand, or even your usual gestures without realizing it.
5. They will breathe deeply
Taking deep breaths around someone can show interest. So, if you’re curious if someone likes you, watch how their breathing changes when you talk.
Are they agitated? Or is their breathing slow and steady, allowing them to focus?
Linda points out that when someone breathes deeply, it means they are engaged and willing to connect with the person in front of them.
6. You will be invited everywhere
If someone truly likes you, they’ll want you around often. They’ll invite you to events and introduce you to their close friends.
7. They give a lot of compliments
Someone who gives you lots of compliments is likely interested in you, whether it’s romantic or not. They might praise your style, your hair, your eyes, or anything about you they find appealing.
8. They get a little jealous
Jealousy isn’t just for romantic relationships—it can happen with a simple crush, too. If someone gets jealous when you spend time with others, it could mean they like you.
9. They will try to make you laugh
If someone likes you, they’ll try to make you laugh with jokes or funny comments whenever you’re together.
10. Your friends act strange around you
You can also watch how their friends act when you’re around. Do they laugh, whisper, or try to give you two some time alone?
11. The secrets of eye contact
Eye contact is important in relationships. The amount, length, and type of eye contact can help you tell if someone likes you.
The person who likes you will look at you more and make more meaningful eye contact. There will be more staring and eyebrow movements.
12. Proximity
People who like each other want to be close to each other. They’ll find reasons to be as close as possible.
13. Elimination of obstacles
To get closer, they might move things like bags, cups, or pillows out of the way so nothing is between you.
14. Blush and laugh
The person you secretly like will always laugh at your jokes, even if they’re stupid. They’ll also be amused by your ordinary activities and expressions.
15. Secret messages in contact
Even casual touches can have hidden meanings when someone likes you.
People who like each other often touch more. After all, we usually avoid touching people we don’t like.
So, if someone is interested, they’ll find reasons to touch you, like tapping your shoulder or arm while laughing or showing appreciation.
16. Changes in behavior
Another sign is that people often act a little differently when they’re around someone they like.
It might not be obvious, but you can spot these changes if you pay attention.
Watch how they act with you compared to others. Do they fix their hair more or walk differently when you’re around?
17. A greater degree of interest in you
People who like you are curious and want to learn more about you. Staying interested in each other is also key to lasting relationships.
You’ll notice their interest because they’ll ask lots of questions and remember details about you and your conversations.
18. Part of your life
Someone who likes you will want to be involved in your life as much as they can.
They’ll be eager to meet your friends and join in on activities you enjoy.
19. Lower your voice
Research shows that both men and women often lower their voices when they’re attracted to someone.
20. Quick response to text messages
Getting a quick reply to your texts is a good sign someone is interested in you.
How to tell if someone likes you by the way they look at you
Studies suggest that consistent eye contact also shows that they’re paying unwavering attention to what you’re saying. In the case of intense romantic attraction, you’ll definitely notice the person looking at you frequently, even from a distance.
They’ll look at you and maintain direct eye contact frequently if they’re open and outgoing. On the other hand, if they’re shy, they might deliberately look away to avoid eye contact.
You might notice their eyebrows moving more when they’re with you, like raising them when they see you or making small movements during your conversation.
In the program “Body Language for Dating and Attraction,” Linda explains that our pupils get bigger when we’re excited, and we can’t control it. This is a sign to watch for if you’re unsure whether someone likes you.
“ The eyes allow you to see the beauty, integrity and honesty of another person .”Linda Clemons, Mindvalley trainer and nonverbal communication expert
How do you know if a girl likes you?
Most of the signs of attraction we’ve talked about apply to everyone, but some are specific to each gender.
Here are some signs to look for if you want to know if a girl likes you:
21. More activity with the lips and eyes
She might purse or lick her lips and glance up with her eyelids lowered, often without realizing it.
22. Putting her chin on her hand while sitting and looking at you
This gesture shows she’s interested and paying attention.
23. Fixed posture while being around you
She might raise one shoulder a bit or push one hip out slightly.
24. Roll up your sleeves to reveal your wrists
Even though it’s done without thinking, this shows confidence and attraction.
25. Smile a lot when they are around you
Smiling is a great way to connect with others. If a girl smiles a lot around you, she’s likely trying to make a good impression.
“Smiling is the most important and economical gift you can give someone. And it’s accepted and recognized all over the world.”Linda Clemons, Mindvalley trainer and nonverbal communication expert
How do you know if a guy likes you?
If you’re wondering if a guy likes you, here are some subtle signs to watch for:
26. Make an eyebrow gesture
This is a strong gesture guys use to show they’re interested in someone.
27. Adjust your clothes
A guy might unbutton his shirt, fix his tie, or adjust his sleeves to seem more masculine when he’s interested.
28. Look at you, then look again, and then look again
This means a playful gesture that guys would do to catch someone’s interest and make them feel special.
29. Crotch flashing
According to Linda, a man will sit with his legs apart when he subconsciously feels more present and interested.
30. Stroke hair
Stroking their hair when they’re around you can signal interest and show their charm.
Whether you’re a man or a woman who wants to consciously share your interest with your crush, you can check out these dating tips based on Linda Clemons’ own body language expertise.
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